Many of my brides are DIY brides (that’s do-it-yourself for the uninitiated). And while I certainly encourage couples to put their own personal stamp on their wedding, I’d like to say a few words to those going the DIY route.
Don’t DIY it all. I’ve had brides that have done every last detail themselves – created the invitations, designed the decor, embellished programs, made favors, the list goes on. And while I have to admit these details were lovely – and definitely HER – I know she was going a little crazy right up until the end trying to complete everything.
Have all your projects done at least a week before your big day. A whole week? Yes. There are so many last-minute things that you probably haven’t even thought of yet – schedule time to take care of those. And if you don’t need the time? Well now you have a week to look forward to your pending nuptials! I’d also like to suggest one step further – do your projects in order of importance and complete each one before starting the next. That way if you run out of time, you won’t feel the last-minute crush to complete everything.
Don’t do your own flowers – at least not all of them. If you are really great at doing floral arrangements – go for it. IF you are having a smallish wedding. You won’t want to be creating your centerpieces the day before or (gasp!) day of your wedding. I promise you will have other much more fun things to do. And even if you think the bouquets, corsages, and boutonnieres are easy, I BEG you to hire a professional. If budget is a concern, limit the number needed, reuse bouquets as centerpieces, and keep the sizes smaller. Cut flowers simply don’t last long out of water. And that is why you benefit from a professional.
Don’t force others to help – and don’t assume everyone wants to. Just because you are über crafty does not mean all your bridesmaids are. As hard as it is to believe, some people cringe at the thought of tying a hundred little bows by hand. And then gluing them on. And then adding little bits of bling here and there. All for programs that most people will leave sitting in their chairs (this doesn’t mean I think you shouldn’t have a program, just don’t spend too much time on it). Don’t make your friends and family resentful. By doing everything yourself, and accepting help when offered, everyone will be happier.
Don’t make your own cake/food. If your budget is small, opt for a cake and punch reception instead of a full dinner. There’s a lot to be said for doing things on your own, and you may be a wonderful chef or baker, but don’t work on your wedding day! Leave that in the hands of someone else.
Don’t try to do it all on your wedding day. Hiring a professional to take care of the details on your wedding day is really essential to a Carefree bride. Trust that she(or he) knows your vision and will see it through to every last detail. Then you can relax with your loved ones.
Isn’t that what you should be doing anyway?