You’ve seen the show. Admit it. If only for a few minutes while looking for something to watch. It’s so awful you can’t look away. But you don’t want to be one, do you?
I frequently meet with brides that tell me they don’t want to be a Bridezilla. Phew! I don’t want to work with one! Bridezillas have complete disregard for everyone else. Here are 10 of my simple lessons to help you not be a Bridezilla.
1. Remember the Golden Rule – treat people the way you want to be treated.
2. Remember it isn’t ALL about you – after all, there is a groom! Yes you have probably dreamt of this day much longer than he has. But never forget there can’t be a wedding without the groom.
3. Get it in writing – I love the electronic age we live in. Email is a great communicator – useful when planning your wedding during work hours (don’t worry, I won’t tell your boss). Make sure all changes made, that are not in your contract, are in writing. And make sure your professional has acknowledged it. Even better…
4. Hire a Day of Coordinator – and copy him or her on every email you send to your professionals. Your DoC should be in the loop on every aspect of your wedding. Then if something does go wrong, your DoC can take care of it and you won’t have to.
5. Don’t obsess over the details – I know you have envisioned EXACTLY how this day will look. But it will not ruin your wedding day if you have pale pink roses instead of blush or the candles won’t stay lit. Unless you let it.
6. Trust your professionals – you did your homework and you chose the best professionals for your wedding. Now trust them to do the job you hired them to do. If you feel like you can’t trust your professional then you may need to reconsider who you have hired – but please do that BEFORE your wedding day. You should know after a month of working with someone if they are trustworthy. If not, then it is better to lose a deposit than spend 6 months (or longer) wondering if they will show up on time, with everything they are supposed to have, on the only day that matters – your wedding day.
7. Acknowledge others – a simple thank you goes a long way, both verbal and written.
8. Eat – I know it is your wedding day and you may be nervous or excited (maybe both) but this is not the time for a crash diet. I’m not saying go eat a gigantic four course meal but don’t starve yourself on your wedding day. It is hard to be a nice person when you are starving.
9. Don’t force participation – don’t make your bridesmaids stay up until 3am folding programs, adding bows, or creating custom somethings. If they volunteer – great! But not everyone is crafty (and please don’t do this the day before your wedding). Don’t have monthly update meetings on the status of your wedding details…send an email if you feel they need to know. Don’t insist upon a choreographed dance with the entire wedding party – unless everyone WANTS to do it.
10. Relax – you have planned this for months, now is the time to enjoy it because you have hired professionals you trust, your DoC is taking care of those last-minute hiccups, and you are marrying the love of your life.