In the absence of an official Day of Coordinator, on-site coordinator, or wedding planner the coordination of your day usually falls to two people: your photographer and/or your DJ. Here’s why you don’t want that to happen.
Your photographer (or the second shooter) is too busy coordinating the big pictures like the wedding party, cake cutting, or bouquet toss to capture those candid moments we all love. Like the flower girl dancing with her father. A quiet moment between the bride and her father (or mother) before the ceremony. The spontaneous and wacky dance the groomsmen are doing on the dance floor. The photographer is possibly one of the most expensive elements of your wedding, and is worth every penny. These are the moments you want to remember forever. I cannot express to you enough how happy a photographer is when they realize there is a coordinator handling your event. My best guess is, it will show in your pictures one way or another.
The other person this duty usually falls to is the DJ. The DJ is likely the one to keep the timeline going throughout the course of the evening, if there is no coordinator. Why is this a problem? Well if the DJ is having to look for you throughout the evening to check on the timeline, they aren’t interacting with your guests and getting them out of their seats. They may not notice the songs that really get them excited. You hired a DJ because you wanted people to dance, right? And DJs love coordinators too because we enable them to do the job they were hired to do.
You might say “my mom is going to be in charge of the timeline and keep things running smoothly”. I cannot stress this enough: even the best planned wedding can be a lot of work. I rarely sit down when I am coordinating a wedding and I have an assistant or two to help me. And I am a professional. Please don’t put this pressure on a family member.
Let them enjoy your moment too.